Dear reader, I have this ... friend, who has this problem, and I wanted to ask—<\/p>\n
What do you mean, Who is he?<\/em> You wouldn't know ... her<\/em>, and—<\/p>\n You must realize that I'm already aware that it's a standard trope for someone to say "I Have This Friend" when they're really talking about themselves<\/a>, and given that I know<\/em> it's already a standard trope, I would never be so obvious as to actually do it! Therefore you must truthfully conclude that I really am<\/em> talking about a—<\/p>\n Okay, that's a good point. No, I didn't consider the fact that that reasoning can't possibly be sound because if it were, then people would use it as an excuse to falsely claim that they were speaking about a friend rather than themselves, thereby contradicting the assumption that the reasoning is—<\/p>\n Well, we could<\/em> try to calculate the probability that I really am talking about a friend conditional on your epistemic state and taking into account the game-theoretic considerations just mentioned, but that could take all night, so will you just listen to my transparent lies for fuck's sake<\/em>?<\/p>\n <\/p>\n Thank you. So I have this friend, who has this problem, which is that there's a not-infrequently-occurring scenario in which she has trouble doing stuff, which is this: she feels morally obligated to make progress on some work she owes someone else, but she also<\/em> wants to make progress on her own personal projects. She thinks she ought to work on the thing she owes someone before she works on her own stuff, but doesn't feel motivated to work on the thing for someone else, and she doesn't feel like she's earned the right to work on her own stuff, so she just ends up doing nothing instead. (Or not literally<\/em> "nothing"; she looks at mildly informative articles and mildly amusing captioned images on the internet. But that should be considered a ground state which might as well be called nothing<\/em>.) And so the day becomes a double<\/em> tragedy: not only has she failed her sacred duties to someone else, she's also<\/em> failed her sacred duties to herself, and for what<\/em>? Tech news emphemera<\/a>? Keeping up with all the comments<\/a> on her favorite community blog? An adorable animated Graphics Interchange Format file of Rainbow Dash jumping on a bed<\/a>? Not worth it!<\/em><\/p>\n Of course the right<\/em> thing to do would be to efficiently work on the project she owes someone for a reasonable amount of time, and then<\/em> work on her own project, but if my friend knew how to "just" do the right thing regardless of psychological state, then this problem wouldn't exist (and I wouldn't waste your time telling you about a problem that doesn't even exist on behalf of my friend who also doesn't ex—uh, doesn't ex–pect<\/em> me to annoy you with problems that—unlike my friend—don't exist). To say that she should "just use willpower" isn't necessarily wrong<\/em>, but it needs to be made more specific<\/em> for the use of my poor friend, or an easier-to-use (although morally or pragmatically inferior) strategy is needed.<\/p>\n So I recommended to my friend that when she notices herself in this situation, maybe she should just start<\/em> working on her personal stuff that moment<\/em>, with the quiet hope that the psychological momentum of doing something, anything<\/em>, can be carried over to fulfilling her obligations to others later in the day. Again, it's not the right<\/em> thing to do, but surely it's better<\/em> than what she lets happen now<\/em>. It is written that the perfect is the enemy of the good<\/em>, with the implied moral being that we should side with the merely good. I would prefer to say that the perfect is the enemy of the good, and while we would hope for the perfect to mercilessly annihilate all its enemies, sometimes you have to temporarily ally with a stronger enemy (in this case, the good) in order to vanquish an even greater foe (in this case, evil).<\/em> But for humans at least, it amounts to the same thing.<\/p>\n Did I say the Right Thing?<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Dear reader, I have this ... friend, who has this problem, and I wanted to ask— What do you mean, Who is he? You wouldn't know ... her, and— You must realize that I'm already aware that it's a standard … Continue reading